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    Home » Holidays » Back to School

    How to Motivate Kids

    Published: Jan 29, 2021 by Heidi. This post may contain affiliate links 26 Comments

    Do you ever feel like you are talking to a brick wall? (I actually wrote a whole post on it once.) You ask your kids to do something, and they completely ignore you?  It happens to me all the time, and I'll admit, I'm more than a little sick of it!  It's time to remind myself how to motivate kids, because what I'm doing is just not working!

    10+ Fun Ways to Motivate Kids {OneCreativeMommy.com}

    How to Motivate Kids!

    During my training to be a teacher, I learned that there are four reasons why kids don't do what they are asked:

    1. They don’t know what to do
    2. They don’t know how to do it
    3. Something is preventing them from doing it
    4. They don’t want to do it

    So, when our kids aren't responding to us as parents, we can use that reasoning to check ourselves.

    Do your kids know what to do?

    I'm learning that when I ask my kids to do something, I need to be sure I have their full attention. In our wonderful age of technology, kids have learned to tune into the TV, computer screen and music, and to tune out Mom and Dad.

    • When making a request, avoid calling out instructions from across the room.  Call your child to you or walk over to them.  (This is to avoid those fabulous parenting moments when you get angry with a child only to realize that they did not hear what you asked them to do.  It's also to avoid the child's excuse that they didn't hear what you asked them to do!)
    • If the kids are using technology, ask them to pause it while you are talking.
    • Make eye contact!  Make sure that your child is looking at you when you talk to them.
    • Expect your child to answer you out loud.  Don't walk away until your child has acknowledged that you asked him/her to do something, and has given you an answer.  (A head nod does not count!)
    Do your kids know how to do it?

    It seems silly, but are you asking your kids to do something that they don't understand how to do correctly?  When my youngest kids were taking hours to clean their room and making no progress, I realized that they were overwhelmed.  They did not know how to undertake the job of cleaning their room on their own.  When I broke it down into small steps and taught them how to do it, they were successful.

    How to Teach Children to Clean Their Rooms {OneCreativeMommy.com} Tired of nagging kids to clean their rooms? Your kids might be overwhelmed and not know where to start. (Free Printable Reminder Cards)

    How to Teach Kids to Clean Their Rooms

    Is something keeping the kids from doing what you've asked?

    Sometimes the kids don't do what you asked because they can't.  For example, you have asked them to vacuum their room, but they can't find the vacuum.  Or maybe you've asked them to do their homework, but they can't because they left it at school.

    The frustrating thing is that kids don't often tell you why they aren't doing what you asked.  They just don't do it, and you get more and more frustrated.

    Before you get angry, it might be a good idea to ask in a calm voice why the kids have not done what you asked.  You might be surprised by the answer!

    They don't want to do it

    And this is why you are reading this post!  What do you do when the kids are ignoring you because they simply don't want to do what you are asking.  (This happens to me every single day with the same kid.)  I've rounded up some great ideas from One Creative Mommy and around the web.

    10+ Fun Ways to Motivate Kids {OneCreativeMommy.com}

    10+ Tips for Motivating Kids

    Mission Control Chore Chart from de Jong Dream House

    Mission Control Morning Checklist from de Jong Dream House

    Free Printable Super Kids Goal Chart {Help your kids keep track of the great things they do on the road to becoming Super Kids!} OneCreativeMommy.com

    Super Kids Goal Setting Chart

    Goal Setting: Helping kids turn short-term goals into long-term habits {Free Printables} OneCreativeMommy.com

    Goal Setting:  Turning Short-Term Goals into Long-Term Habits

    How to Motivate Kids: Toddler Chore Chart from My Name is Snickerdoodle

    Flip Magnetic Chore Chart from My Name is Snickerdoodle  (Love this for toddlers)

    How to Motivate Kids with Point Cards {A Year of Free Designs from OneCreativeMommy.com} #printable #motivatekids

    How to Motivate Kids with Point Cards 

    Learn how to get kids to clean up with editable, printable Ten-Minute Tidy Charts! {OneCreativeMommy.com} #cleaningtips #SharpieClearview #PMedia #ad

    How to Get Kids to Clean Up

    How to Motivate Kids: Accountability Binder from 30 Handmade Days

    Accountability Binder from 30 Handmade Days

    Setting Technology Limits for Kids -- Kids spending too much time gaming this summer? Help them choose other options by limiting their time with technology {Tips and Free Technology Token System Printables from OneCreativeMommy.com} #activeparenting

    Technology Token System

    How to Motivate Kids--Tooth Brushing Chart from Spaceships and Laser Beams

    Free Teeth Brushing Printable Chart from Spaceships and Laser Beams

    You're Mighty Marvelous M&M Gift Tags {Perfect for gymnastics meets, the first or last game of the season, opening night of the school play, or any other time someone needs a pick me up!} Free Download from OneCreativeMommy.com

    Mighty Marvelous M&M Gift Tags (Because every kid needs to know that you think they are great!)

    If what you are doing isn't working, step back and try again!  Think about your specific child and what motivates him or her.  (It's not always treats or toys.  Some kids are motivated by praise, some by hugs and high fives, and some by getting to spend extra time with Mom and Dad.)  Maybe you're offering the wrong type of reward!  Keep trying until you find the right match for your child.

    10 more ideas to love!

    5 Ways to Motivate Kids Every Morning from Written Reality

    How I Get My Kids to Clean Their Room from Living Well Spending Less

    Teaching Kids About Money and Responsibility from A Bowl Full of Lemons

    Reward and Consequence Jars from de Jong Dream House

    Magnetic Chore Charts from Thrifty Crafty Girl

    Do You Struggle with Your Children About Chores from Ottawa Mommy Club

    Shine God's Light Reward System from Captain Fussy Buckets

    Kid-Made Responsibilities Chart from Girl Gone Mom

    Kid's Cleaning Kit and Printable Chart from Live Simply

    And--if you're feeling really guilty (like I am) for being frustrated with your kiddos, try this one:  Forgive Your Child--Extend Them Grace from What's Up Fagans?

    Thanks for stopping by today.  I hope you found some ideas that will work for your family.  I'd love to hear your ideas on motivating kids.  What works for you?  Please share your ideas in the comments!

    Heidi

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    Hi! I’m Heidi, the sometimes scatterbrained, but always creative mind behind One Creative Mommy. I'm a retired teacher, wife, and mom of three beautiful teenage girls and one adorable fur baby. In my spare time, I love to share my ideas (mistakes and all) with anyone who will listen.

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    Comments

    1. Heather

      August 27, 2014 at 6:33 am

      Thanks for including my chart, Heidi! I love the token system shown above.

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 27, 2014 at 9:44 am

        Happy to include you Heather! I love your idea to have your kids help make the chart and the plan.

        Reply
    2. Katelyn

      August 27, 2014 at 1:41 pm

      Awe! Thanks for linking to my article! I'm not sure how it relates to motivating kids! It's more about the parents in that one. :) Great tips as always. You really love your rewards charts and check-lists! Such great resources here Heidi!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 27, 2014 at 9:47 pm

        I added it because I was feeling guilty for being so frustrated with one of my kids after trying everything to motivate her. (I edited the text a bit, so now it should make more sense.)

        Reply
    3. Heather

      August 27, 2014 at 9:14 pm

      Heidi I love all these ideas. Great options you shared with charts. I like your tip on making sure you get a response back from your kids after asking for help. I catch myself asking for help and the kids don't always respond, I need to remember to slow down and wait for a response. Good tip! Thank you :)

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 27, 2014 at 9:48 pm

        Thanks, Heather. I think that's the tip that I most need to remember!!!

        Reply
    4. Elizabeth

      August 28, 2014 at 9:04 am

      Awesome post! I just love all these ideas. Pinning.

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 29, 2014 at 9:37 pm

        Thanks so much, Elizabeth. I hope you found something that will work for your family.

        Reply
    5. Crystelle

      August 28, 2014 at 11:18 am

      Great tips, that I think apply to teens as well! I will have to do better as a mom now.... (no excuses, you know!!) Have a wonderful Thursday!! :)
      xox, Crystelle
      CrystelleBoutique

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 29, 2014 at 9:37 pm

        Thanks. Teens need motivation, too. Now who's going to motivate Mommy?

        Reply
    6. Camille

      August 29, 2014 at 7:15 pm

      My problem is motivating them to do their homework without stressing out. Any tips for that? These other ones are great!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        August 29, 2014 at 8:15 pm

        Do you mean that the kids are stressing out about the homework, or that you are? When it comes to homework, I'd suggest having a routine after school, so that the kids know when they are expected to work and when they will get to play. It probably depends on the child whether they need a snack break or an unwinding time before they get started. If it's an older child, try checking out my post on using a planner. Sometimes dividing big projects into smaller chunks is helpful. How to Use a School Planner

        Reply
    7. WendysHat

      August 31, 2014 at 11:01 pm

      Great tips. It does sometimes take a lot to motivate them but it is really worth it in the long run! Thanks!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:34 am

        Thanks, Wendy. It's definitely worth it, but it can be so hard!!!

        Reply
    8. Kelly

      September 01, 2014 at 9:06 pm

      Thank you! It is like you are in my head, my 4 year old is soooo hard to motivate. I can't wait to try some of these ideas!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:35 am

        Your 4-year-old and my 7-year-old should get together! I hope some of these ideas work for you!

        Reply
    9. Barb @ A Life in Balance

      September 03, 2014 at 11:23 am

      Great tips! I've learned to be very specific about what I ask. Some of my kids don't think about what I'm saying and get a little stuck when doing something. And of course, don't tell me.

      I'm sure I'll be taking advantage of the charts this fall with my youngest son. He's not happy about going to Kindergarten. A little bribery, ahem reward system may be his motivating factor. ;)

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:36 am

        Thanks, Barb. A little bribery--ahem reward system--is necessary sometimes. Good luck with kindergarten!

        Reply
    10. Heather

      September 04, 2014 at 6:40 am

      I am going to try your tips because I am tired of yelling but that seems like the only way my daughter will listen!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:37 am

        I know exactly what you mean, Heather. I started pointing out to my daughter that she is telling me that she wants me to yell. When she doesn't answer when I ask nicely, but she does answer when I yell, she teaches me that she wants me to yell. She thought that was pretty interesting.

        Reply
    11. Herchel S

      September 04, 2014 at 7:22 pm

      Great tips and something I need to work on with my kids. Thank you for linking up with Family Fun Friday and don't forget to grab your "I was featured" badge!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:38 am

        Thanks so much for the feature, Herchel! I'm behind on my comments. I'm headed to your site now!

        Reply
    12. Clare

      September 07, 2014 at 6:55 am

      Such good advice - I think I might have to print those four things out and stick them on the fridge as a reminder!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:40 am

        Thanks, Clare. It helps sometimes to step back and ask why the kids aren't listening before you jump in and get mad.

        Reply
    13. Megan

      September 07, 2014 at 9:02 pm

      You always have the greatest insight and tips into how to accomplish things, thanks!

      Reply
      • Heidi Fowler

        September 09, 2014 at 9:41 am

        You're so sweet, Megan. Thanks so much!

        Reply

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